Oct 27, 2017
“The problem of disrespectful, demeaning, and downright
mean-spirited behavior is worse than ever” - Robert
Sutton
I'm
sure everybody listening to this podcast has dealt with or is
currently dealing with, a jerk, and this is most likely some work
situation as you can't always choose who you work with and often
due to the power position - it's a boss.
But
it could be someone you have to live with or interact with family
friend friend of a friend whatever. If you have anyone in your life
like that who is driving you crazy I will listen to this podcast
and take notes because it's gold.
My guest in this podcast is Robert Sutton,
Professor of Management Science and Engineering and Professor of
Organizational Behavior at Stanford and a New York Times and Wall
St journal best selling author.
Robert studies organizational change,
leadership, innovation, and workplace dynamics and As it relates to
our conversation today, Robert's new book was just released,
The Asshole Survival Guide: How to Deal With People Who
Treat You Like Dirt
Since the first book "No Asshole Rule", which
probably put assholes on the map, became a bestseller, Robert said
he was constantly asked about strategies to deal with assholes.
Hence, the book.
On the podcast Robert offers up some
interesting research and psychological theory explaining a asshole
behavior and it's detrimental impact on people but more importantly
he offers some really good tactics to manage
them.
Here
is some of what you'll learn from the
podcast.
1) The difference between sporadic asshole and true asshole
Context vs
personality.
2) Why you don't have to be
an asshole to succeed
The Steve Jobs fallacy
3) How to make sure you
don't contribute to the pool
The "Arse" test and
feedback.
4) Creating a survival plan
based on goals
if
you're deal with somebody who's leaving you feeling demeaned and
de-energized and disrespected that you've got to figure out what
your survival plan is.
5) Physical and emotional
strategies and techniques
When to leave and when to stay.
The "clinician" reframe.
Temporal
distancing.
6) Forgiveness as a
strategy
First, do no more harm to
yourself.
7) Teaching others how to
treat you.
This
is an important topic and it's life changing stuff in my
opinion.
There are people dreading getting up in the
morning to head to work some go home from work crying. Some will
get a work email tonight that will rob them of sleep.
Life is too
short.
Learn the skills needed to manage
the assholes in your life.